March 31, 2025

Do you ever look at your life and think: This isn’t what I pictured at all?

Yeah, same here!

Today marks the anniversary of my former marriage. While that might sound like a sad memory, I’m actually feeling surprisingly neutral about it. Grateful, even. Because, honestly, this anniversary has become a reminder of how magical and divine life can be—even when it feels like everything is falling apart.

For a long time (and let’s be real, probably since I started watching Disney movies as a kid), I had this clear, picture-perfect idea of what my life was “supposed” to look like: marriage (just one, of course), kids by a certain age, a good 9-5 job, a big retirement plan—the whole nine.

But here’s the thing: that picture? It wasn’t really mine. It was shaped by all kinds of collective programming—unspoken rules, societal norms, and expectations I didn’t even realize I was following.

In other words, my ego’s big “shoulds” were driving the bus, and yeah, maybe a few too many rom-coms had me convinced there was only one “right” path in life and love.

So when life threw me a giant curveball via divorce, it didn’t just disrupt those old pictures—it completely shattered them.

Honestly? Letting go of the life I thought I’d have was a brutal process. A huge part of me didn’t want to accept reality. Needless to say, I had my fair share of humbling moments during that time (like, multiple ones. Every. Single. Day).

But here’s the twist: that wasn’t the end of the story. It was actually the beginning of a new path—one where I listen to my body and trust that following my own inner impulse is the greatest adventure I could ever be on.

And now, looking back, I can say with absolute certainty: I wouldn’t change a thing.

Because, in the end, divorce wasn’t a setback. In fact, without that marriage and divorce, I don’t think I’d be here today—living in Colorado, with the love of my life, doing work that truly lights me up, and playing every day.

Instead, divorce was more like a spiritual redirect—a chance to strip away the “shoulds” and get clear about the life I really want. One that’s guided by my deepest desires and aligned with my essence. A life that feels authentic, fun, and most importantly, mine.

So, here’s to all the detours in life and to letting go of the pictures that were never really ours to begin with. To embracing what is and trusting that every twist, turn, and broken dream are all part of a greater plan, guiding us exactly where we’re meant to be.